I need advice.
How do you reach someone who is being manipulated by another person?
Case in point. My sister is 23 yrs. old. She lives at home with my parents and middle sister. She has a good job, but doesn't have her drivers license. She is involved with a man who is 50 yrs old. He has a 30 yr old son. He has a two teenage boys who still live at home (13 and 14 yrs old). This man was a friend of the family. Yet they snuck around and would not tell anyone they were together. When they were found out and were questioned, the man immediately assumed my sister had told everyone and he started attacking her character. He called her a slut. Without talking to anyone in the family he made up lies about myself, my mother, father, middle sister, my grandfather, and my husband. He called us all kind of crazy names and made up stories about the stuff we were supposed to be involved in. He then went to everyone in our church and told them these lies. The people in our church didn't believe him, but still were questioning why he was saying these things.
Well, my sister supposedly broke it off, but now I just found out they are still seeing each other. They still haven't told anyone else and insist on keeping it a secret.
My question is if they are both adults and want to be in this relationship then how come it has to be a secret? If they love each other then shouldn't they want everyone to know how serious they are? I am confused.
Does anyone have any advice to offer me on the best way to deal with my sister? Do I just support her even if I think she will be hurt in the end? Do I tell her how I feel? What would you do?
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